What am I doing that I don’t like about myself?
What am I doing that you don’t like about yourself?
What are you doing that I don’t like about myself?
What are you doing that you don’t like about yourself?
Every moment is a dynamic dance between a judgment of other and oneself. What is the other person doing that reminds me of an action I don’t like about myself? What am I doing that I don’t like about myself? This meaning making is also performed by the other person we are in relationship with. We often miss the important factor of recognizing how our relationship in every moment is predominantly about seeing how it reflects on who we believe we are.
When confronted with self-criticism PAUSE and ASK THESE QUESTIONS!
by Dr. Phil Blustein
April 5, 2024