There is no question that it is necessary to evaluate certain experiences and determine if it is skillful or not and how will that influence one's response. However, for the most part our minds are criticizing and judging you because you have subconsciously interpreted the present moment action of the sense of self as not being congruent with the held belief system of how the self should behave. For this type of thinking what is required is the capacity to hold the judgment and allow it to be. In reality one is holding one's inner woundedness and unmet psychological needs with compassion, acceptance and kindness. In understanding that they are a conditioned construct no judgment is required.
Critically it is Not about Not Judging what is Happening
But Understanding there is Nothing to Judge!
by Dr. Phil Blustein
November 6, 2026