“I am not what has happened to me, but what I choose to become”
Conventionally I see it as:
We become what we have chosen to do with what has happened to us.
Suffering is not from what has happened but what we do with it! There is an automatic subconscious interpretation of experience based on the need to meet unmet psychological needs that define our sense of self. This results in a creation of a self appropriate for the moment that dictates our action.
by Dr. Phil Blustein
April 17, 2026