TRUTHS of the nature of REALITY

Truths of the Nature of Reality

*Reality is conditionally created
Every moment is a constant autonomous subconscious interpretation of perceived causes and conditions referenced against a personal arbitrary belief system to create a conditioned enduring sense of self.


*Attachment to self leads to suffering


*Non-Attachment to self leads to freedom from suffering
Can one rest in the awareness of the experience that contains the story of self rather than be the sense of self that believes it is having the experience?


*Transformation from self-referential judgment to non-self referential discernment is the segue to liberation
Can one reference experience against universal ethical and compassionate standards and not our personal belief system of unmet psychological needs?


*Choice is possible for skillful action

by Dr. Phil Blustein

MINDFULNESS IS NOT FREEDOM FROM PAIN AND SUFFERING BUT FREEDOM TO BE WITH PAIN SUFFERING

MINDFULNESS IS NOT FREEDOM FROM PAIN AND SUFFERING BUT FREEDOM TO BE WITH PAIN SUFFERING

There are only two ways to be free of pain and suffering. Death and coma. And that is not what mindfulness is about. Mindfulness is not about a silent and peaceful mind. Loss of a loved one, your job, a relationship or your health is difficult. There will be sadness, grief, anger and pain. Mindfulness will not change that. But what it can do is to allow you to hold your pain without fighting and resistance. One holds the suffering with wisdom and compassion.

Dr. Philip Blustein

THE ABCDE OF BREATHING

THE ABCDE OF BREATHING

Learning how to breathe properly is one of the most effective tools you have for stress relief. How do you do it?

AWARENESS!

Our breath is under automatic and conscious control. Bring your awareness to your breath.

BREATHE CALMLY

Breathe in a conscious slow, deep and smooth manner through your nose.

DIAPHRAGMATIC BREATHING

Belly rather than chest breathing with the inhalation and exhalation supports relaxation.

EXHALATION

Exhalation is the parasympathetic or relaxation response while inhalation is the sympathetic or fight or flight response. Breathe out by at least 1 second longer than what you breathe in. Ultimately aim for slow breathing with an in-breath for a count of 4 and an out-breath for a count of 6. Put them all together and you have the capacity to put out the fire of acute stress or lower the simmer of chronic anxiety.

Dr. Philip Blustein

WHAT IS NON-JUDGMENT?

WHAT IS NON-JUDGMENT?

From an interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn in MINDFUL magazine he explained: “And nonjudgmental, by the way, does not mean that you won’t have any likes or dislikes or that you’ll be completely neutral about everything. Nonjudgmental really means that you’ll become aware of how judgmental you are and then not judge that and see if you [can let go], for a few moments at least, the restraining order that filters everything through our likes and dislikes or wants or aversion.”

IS NON-JUDGMENTAL  HAVING NO PREFERENCE 

FOR YOUR PREFERENCE TO HAVE NO PREFERENCES?

 by Dr. Phil Blustein

PAIN IS EXPECTED SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL

PAIN IS EXPECTED SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL

I lose my keys.

There is the pain of having to get someone to come and pick me up and go and get another key made. However, I don’t stop there. I add to this pain with my mind saying: “I am so stupid and careless! How could I have lost my keys? This is terrible!”

The Buddha said: “PAIN IS EXPECTED SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.” There is the initial event that causes us pain. However, we then like to amplify what has happened. We make up stories about our experiences and our self-worth. Value is not inherent to what we experience, but from what we interpret it to be.

Suffering does not come from the event but what we superimpose on it.