PAIN IS EXPECTED SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL

PAIN IS EXPECTED SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL

I lose my keys.

There is the pain of having to get someone to come and pick me up and go and get another key made. However, I don’t stop there. I add to this pain with my mind saying: “I am so stupid and careless! How could I have lost my keys? This is terrible!”

The Buddha said: “PAIN IS EXPECTED SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.” There is the initial event that causes us pain. However, we then like to amplify what has happened. We make up stories about our experiences and our self-worth. Value is not inherent to what we experience, but from what we interpret it to be.

Suffering does not come from the event but what we superimpose on it.

Your mind has a mind of its own

Your mind has a mind of its own

If you have ever tried to meditate, you will notice how crazy your mind is; How many thoughts and distractions you have.

Following the S’s of meditation may help your AIM TO SUSTAIN focus.

  • SET the intention. It may be: “May I have sustained awareness of the breath.
  • SHUT your eyes. This helps to shut out external distractions.
  • SPINE for position. Have an upright spine, feet flat on the floor, hands on your lap and your buttocks higher than your knees.
  • SCAN the body. Ground yourself in the present moment by bringing attention to the sensations of your body.
  • SPOT to focus your awareness of the breath. The tip of the nostrils is a very sensitive spot for attention.
  • SENSATIONS – Be aware of the physical sensations of the breath at the tip of the nostrils.
  • SPONTANEOUS breathing. Allow the breath to move spontaneously.
  • SEGMENTS of the breath. Follow segments of the breath individually. Inhalation, Pause, Exhalation and Pause
  • SWITCHING of attention. Attention works by being FOCUSED on the breath, MONITORING when you have drifted and RECENTERING the attention back to the breath.
  • SECONDS – Count your breaths to help your focus.

Dr. Phil Blustein