Do you live your life from the place that says: “If only I had this I would be happy!” And then what happens when you get it.
The new car develops engine trouble. The wonderful new job has a terrible boss. The blissful marriage ends in divorce. The sweet kids become drug addicts. Whenever you rely on something external to yourself to provide your happiness you will never be happy. There is no way to be able to control what exists outside of you. We have enough trouble controlling what goes on inside of us! We live a life from a position of deficiency that will never result in being happy by trying to fill the hole.. We need to recognize that we are as perfect and complete as we can be in the moment. We need to accept and rejoice in the way we are and what we have now. There needs to be gratitude for the whole picture. We need to look at acquiring things or developing new relationships as changing our wholeness, not completing it.
By Dr. Philip Blustein